SOARING SINGLE EAGLES

Here are the Introductory Notes for our LAUNCHING of one of the Most Explosive Singles Ministries Ever! The Faith House Soaring Single Eagles Ministry is one which will help you learn how to build relationships from Foundation to the Highest Elevations. If you ain't Ready to Rise, don't bother boarding this FLIGHT. If so, fasten your seatbelt and prepare for Take-Off. Flight Attendants, PLEASE prepare the Flight for Take-Out.

The Single Season…the most significant season of your life as it’s the foundation season for setting standards…..One of the most common and significant custom in Western countries is “dating.” The word “dating” comes from “setting a date” were two people get together at a certain time or place for getting to know each other better. Dating, as we know it today is Not a Scriptural concept, yet it still has become imbedded as a social norm.THAT’S WHY THE WORD NEVER EMBRACES CHRISTIANS DATING…WE’RE SUPPOSE TO “COURT”. THAT’S ANOTHER STRONG SERIES. MOST OF OUR PAIN CAME OUT OF DATING.

DATING IS LIKE “TEST DRIVING”. PASTOR WE DIDN’T EVEN GO THERE… DIDN’T SAY THAT…YOU ALLOW PEOPLE TO GET INTO YOUR INTIMATE SPACE WHO DON’T QUALIFY. THEN WHEN THEY HURT YOU….I’M JUST DONE…THROUGH DATING….ALL MEN ARE DOGS…ALL WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS…BUT IF YOU UNDERSTOOD COURTSHIP…WHAT YOU SAY IS, “WE ARE FRIENDS BUT WE AIN’T DATING” BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO EARN THE RIGHT TO COURT ME.COURTING HAS A GOAL…DATING DON’T.DATING AIN’T DIRECTED NOWHERE. BUT TO THE NEXT PERSON WHO CAN MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER. YOU EVER HEARD IT…”I’M JUST DATING ~ I’M NOT SERIOUS”…JUST DATING ~ NOT LOOKING FOR A “RELATIONSHIP OR A COMMITMENT!”

One of the most common questions, “when is one ready to date?” There is no chronological age. Even in youth, adolescents mature at different rates and girls usually mature faster than boys. A persons READINESS to date is largely a matter of maturity and environment. Part of Maturity is Knowledge and there are FOUR principles or prerequisites that every person should meet Before dating.

1) Fully aware of Both the benefits and dangers of dating. Understanding the perks and the pitfalls. Only when you understand this are you “mature” enough to begin opening yourself up to more serious relationships. At the TOP of the list of Potential Dating Pitfalls is the danger of becoming physically and emotionally involved too soon, at too deep of a level, leading to inappropriate behavior.Human beings are Social Creatures, and we relate to each other on three levels: spirit, body and mind. The progression is very important. Healthy relationships should always begin at the Spiritual and Intellectual level. These are the levels of purpose, motivation, interest, dreams and personality. The PHYSICAL dimension is the least of the three and this is where most start. This has corrupted an entire culture as everything focuses on the physical first.SO ADAM SAYS.. Many are faced with great temptations and under great pressure to jump into the physical first.

Here’s the DANGER: Physical attraction leads to deep emotional involvement and the couple hasn’t even had the opportunity to discover whether they share similar interests, dreams or views on life. By the time those things come out and they discover they’re not on the same page spiritually and intellectually, it’s too late because they are already emotionally entangled making it very difficult to just hit the “off” switch and call it a day. In many cases, they plunge forward with their emotional connection, resulting in frustrated and unfulfilled life dreams.

2) The Second Prerequisite for Dating Readiness is: a good solid understanding of God’s standards for relationships. You must “learn” and work out a clear set of standards based on God’s WORD, Or, you are Not ready to date. This requires a certain degree of spiritual maturity. Waiting Until you are in a dating situation to decide what it right, wrong, or what you will do or will not do is too late. Unless you settle those matters in your heart and mind beforehand, you will have little protection against temptation and could easily go way too far. There are ONLY 2 Choices….either you follow God’s standards by deliberate choice, or you will follow the worlds standards by default. Unless you plan ahead to keep yourself pure on a date, you probably won’t. There is no age per say, the criteria for a Christian is to “find” and “follow” Gods standards. If you do not know what those standards are or what God’s characteristics are for a balanced spiritual person, then you are Not ready to date.

Dating is NO place for trial and error. Why would you “board the plane” and trust them to fix in while in “flight?” Why would you present and produce collateral or require collateral for a “loan” but trust someone with your “life” and pray that they “reciprocate” and not “depreciate”? You should not even begin to develop a serious relationship with anyone until you understand what God expects and requires. If unsure, find out first.

3) The Third Principle….once you have determined from the WORD of God what the standards are, resolve in your spirit that you will not lower or compromise those standards for Any reason, even if it means losing some date offers. Many will compromise for a date or to keep someone but this is immature behavior and will cause a lot of problems and pain. Standing firm on what you believe IN is a sign of both spiritual and emotional maturity. Dr. King said it best, “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.”

4) The fourth which arises from the first three….you’re ready when you don’t need to. If you feel you need to date in order to be fulfilled or validated, you are Not ready. Need involves demand and implies that there is something lacking in life. The opposite of need is choice, which allows for decision. A legitimate need eliminates choice. Consciously or subconsciously, the desire to fulfill our perceived needs drives our lives and influences our decisions. This is the same with relationships. As long as you perceive lack or incompleteness with yourself, every relationship you enter, will be to one degree or another, and effort to supply that lack, or bring a sense of completeness.

Listen, if you feel deficient, you will build your relationship on that deficiency…why…because you will be looking for that other person to supply that which you feel you do not have.Most people enter relationships with some sense of incompleteness or inadequacy. What they usually end up with is 50/50 weak relationships. Neither person can give 100% because they both are focusing on what they do not have, which they hope to find in the other person. People in this kind of relationship live everyday in insecurity, because each one is expected to supply the others lack, and neither knows how long they can keep up the effort. This relationship will only last as long as either person feels it’s satisfying their needs or compensating for their deficiency.

Example: Adam…the 2^nd Chapter shows a human being who was whole, complete and content within himself and his companionship with God…Genesis 2:7-19, 15, 18-22Don’t miss this…before Eve came along, Adam was “alone” but not lonely. Loneliness is a spiritual disease. Adam was alone because he was the only one of his kind, but he was completely fulfilled as a person. In tending the garden he had meaningful work to do. In his authority over the other living creatures, he was exercising his God-given dominion over the created order. He enjoyed full and open fellowship with his creator.

Don’t Miss this…Adam was so fulfilled within himself and so busy tending the garden and naming and caring for the birds and animals that he never felt the need or desire for a companion, this is called Singleness or being Single. He was so preoccupied with doing what God had told him to do that he sensed no need for a mate. Apparently, the thought never entered his head. Don’t Miss This, providing a mate for Adam was God’s idea. Adam was completely self-fulfilled; he was ready for a mate when he did not need one. It’s the same with dating. The time you are most prepared for dating is when you don’t need anyone to complete you, fulfill you or instill in you a sense of worth or purpose.

Contentment with being alone involves learning how to be fulfilled in your singleness. A truly single person is one who is complete physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually without depending on anyone else. Successful singles find their personal identity and sense of wholeness within themselves and God. Because they are complete within themselves, only whole individuals are fully comfortable being alone. They can thrive and prosper with or without a relationship. For such people a relationship is an added blessing or “icing on the cake.”

A whole person is one who has, first of all, a healthy self-concept. Many people struggle with feelings of inferiority and self hatred. These people will struggle in any relationships. These war wounds must heal first. Healthy Self-Love is critically important to personal wholeness because it affects every other relationship.

Secondly, a whole person has a clear and solid Faith. When we know what we believe, why we believe, know the Word, committed to obeying it and have a good grasp of God’s standards for our personal lives and determined to live by it, we are well on our way to wholeness.

A THIRD characteristic of wholeness is growing one’s own roots. To grow your own roots means to have your focus of motivation and control within yourself rather than in other folks. Many people allow other people to control their lives. They dress to please others, drive, buy, live, etc. Why…uncomfortable and uncertain with their own idea, they simply give in to the thoughts and ideas of others. Whole people are self motivated, internally directed, comfortable with themselves, and rooted firmly enough to stand strong and confident in the values they live by…even in times when it may seem like their standing alone.

Being alone as a Single person has many advantages…especially for a believer. One of the greatest of these is to give undivided attending to the pursuit of spiritual growth and a deep relationship with God. Married people must divide their time and attention between spiritual pursuits and the everyday challenges and demands of married life. In Paul’s First Letter to the believers in Corinthians, Paul parked on the points of value when it comes to singleness. 1 Cor 7:26-28, 32-35.Paul’s counsel to singles is to use this time on your life to pursue “the Lord’s affairs,” to grow in “undivided devotion” to Him.

Single persons are free to concern themselves totally with the things of God. Get your spiritual roots imbedded now because once you get seriously involved with another person, especially in marriage relationship, you time and attention will be divided between that person and your devotion and service to God. Think of Singleness as a blessing and perfect opportunity for character development.

Learn to be an asset first…Don’t Miss This…”you should be preoccupied with preparing yourself for whomever God is preparing for you. Most people are so busy looking for the one God has prepared for them and they fail to prepare themselves for that person. True Singleness is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. When you can be alone and enjoy it, you are a self confident and self aware person. You are well adjusted, not needing others approval. It means you have your end in order and READY for a deeper relationship.

Key…Seek Ye First…and God will add…Listen…anytime we start seeking people, we will be led by people. Some may say, “if I don’t start looking, I’ll end up walking by myself”. Not so….Matthew 6:33..says “all things shall be added”…the Greek word for “added” is the same root word from which we get “magnetize”…this means that as we “seek the kingdom”….all of the other things which concern us will be added or “drawn to us” like a magnet. No need to look…it will be drawn to.

Here’s the point, if you have to go look for someone, then that person is not on the same road with you or following the same path. If you find someone off the road, you will have to go out of your way to find them, losing your way finding them and spending the rest of your life trying to bring them into the way.Anyone you connect with in God will be headed the same way you are and when both of you are on the same road, at the same approximate space, eventually you WILL run into each other. In closing, “don’t ever become so preoccupied by who you want that you forget who you are.” If you become preoccupied with what you want, you’ll lose sight of who you are.